How to get over it

 I was listening to Iyanla Vanzant not so long ago and she said something that blew my mind. She  was talking about the death of her daughter and how she had healed from it by removing herself from the physical and embracing the lesson of it. I realised then that the physical(circumstances, maerial, even people) is always just a tool for the lesson.The physical is just like a pen and book used to write down what is being transfered from the teacher to the student.The important thing is what is being transfered, not the stationary being used. So is life.The lesson serves a greater purpose and therefore should be given more priority than the physical.