Thoughts on Cleaving

  I have been pondering on the present day "cleaving" and the " 1 year cleaving" spoken of in OT. Now I must specify not bed cleave but the act of learning about one another and growing a deep understanding and connection. In the present day and under the new covenant I believe that love should be deeper and that cleaving should be a continuous goal and process not just a year. But I find alot of loopholes in our times even as saints who are privileged with a "dating" period which most in OT didn't have. Not just by the fact that sex is rushed into but by the mere fact that we are afforded courtship , shouldn't marriages today purely amongst believers be an unbreakable fortress? I am in awe of a man Like Joseph(NT),how many men today would believe their spouse to be in such a case? And how many prior to being spoken to by God would want to save the honor of their spouse to be by not causing a wave?