A girl's first prince charming is her father, he places the first impressions of the opposite sex in her mind and heart. If he puts a messy picture in her mind, she carries that with her into adulthood.
If you see a troubled and "damaged" girl, One who can't seem to make any right relational choices, you might want to look past her exes and mother and look at her father. He may not neccessarily be a bad man , but look at the things he didnt teach her, the things he never said to her, the value he forgot to show her she had. The man may have done plenty of honourable things but forgot plenty of important things and the trouble with parenting is, every little thing counts.
It's little things like father-daughter dates that seem ridiculous to the ears but make perfect sense to that impressionable young lady. It's letting her know you love her not just in words but in deeds. Reminding her of her worth beyond just her school grades and reports.
Proverbs 22:6 says"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." this doesnt simply refer to pumping scriptures into your child's mind and having them attend church and watch spirituallly enriching content. It's a whole package, teaching the child how to relate, how to cope with daily life, how to walk away from hurtful and deadly situations and not chase after or cling to them.It is so much more!!! It is teaching that girl how to LIVE !
It is a father's responsibility to show his daughter GOD in a man and not let her search for years in vain for that sense of God in a man. It should not be foreign or strange to her when she is pampered and loved, she should expect it because she is a "queen". By showing her the right picture, he will direct her to the right man and save her the pain of scars along the way to the right one.
Without question there is a need for responsible, God fearing fathers or atleast father figures to show us how we should rightfully be treated, to recognize and let in the right man when he comes along, instead of putting our guard up, matter of fact to WAIT for him and not run into the ones who will mess us up so bad internally that the right one has to work through the mess first.
The great news is, at whatever point we do meet Christ, He has an amazing way of overturning everything we learnt in the natural and giving a fresh start, with Him it is never too late, and even to those "damaged" little girls, the right one is available through Christ. He will be man enough to work through it all with you and love you for the gorgeous queen you are, so keep your head up, open your heart to the Lord and taste and see the goodness of the Lord.
ps: I gots me a hero! sorry I had to brag abit *giggles*
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